Posted by: the warrioress | October 24, 2011

Gossip

We’ve probably all had to deal with gossip, either because we have the problem ourselves or we’ve experienced people gossiping about us or perhaps both. Regardless… when we begin to attempt to live according to the bible, things have to change. The bible says a lot about gossip and the harm that it can do. Many people gossip purely out of a type of social anxiety. They are insecure and have very little to talk about except the criticism and tearing down of other people. Life can be routine and even dull without incessant drama for some, and gossipy chat about others can spruce things up.

It’s the negative side of human nature that gives into gossip, but this is actually what the darkness of the world craves to read and talk about and so we often give them what they want – if we want to be read and paid attention to. Unfortunately, if we don’t stop gossip within ourselves and our own personal lives, it’s not going to be stopped around us. We have to set the example in our Christian walk and behavior. Whether we’re Christian or not, gossip’s harm returns to us in many ways, so it behooves everyone to learn to control the tongue and avoid spreading and listening to gossip.

Don’t expect this noble pursuit to happen overnight though; it can be difficult to change habits of a lifetime. It will take work to search for other topics to share and listen to. I think we’re all the better for it though, if we can attempt to curb this aspect of our fleshly, worldly nature and learn to practice something more loving and compassionate. The following reading was helpful to me today regarding this topic and I hope it will be helpful to you, the reader:

Many times when we gossip, we do it because we feel sure that we’ll get away with it. But the Bible tells us that sooner or later, we’ll be found out. Proverbs 10:20 in the Message Bible says: “Loose talk has a way of getting picked up and spread around. Little birds drop the crumbs of your gossip far and wide.”

And Jesus said that our hypocrisy would not be hidden forever. What we have whispered to others will eventually be broadcast for all to hear. (Luke 12:1-3 TLB) We mustn’t deceive ourselves by thinking that what we say about others in private won’t have serious consequences.

I know from experience that trying to refrain from gossip without getting to the root of the problem is futile. Jesus said that whatever is in our hearts will eventually come out of our mouths. (Luke 6:45) That’s why the Lord demands that we deal with what’s in our hearts. In Zechariah 7:10 (NIV), He says, “In your hearts, do not think evil of each other.” Only by obeying this command can we successfully overcome our tendency to speak negatively about others. While we can’t change our own hearts, we can ask God to change us.

David prayed, “Create in me a new, clean heart, O God, filled with clean thoughts and right desires.” (Psalm 51:10 TLB) We can pray this same prayer, trusting the Lord to answer by making us more like Jesus as we seek Him daily. 

James 1:26 (TLB) gives us an idea of just how important what we say is to our witness: “Anyone who says he is a Christian but doesn’t control his sharp tongue is just fooling himself, and his religion isn’t worth much.”

If we don’t make a serious effort to control our speech, we can’t expect to make a real difference for God. In Ephesians 4:29 (NIV), Paul says: “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouth, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” Our words have the power to build up and tear down. They can either “pierce like a sword” or “bring healing.” (Proverbs 12:18)

And the words we speak can affect us, as well as others. Proverbs 18:21 (AMP) says, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and they who indulge in it shall eat the fruit of it [for death or life].” That’s why Peter says, “If you want a happy, good life, keep control of your tongue.” (1 Peter 3:10 TLB)

Gossiping, or even just passively listening to gossip, can affect our physical and mental health and well-being. Proverbs 18:8 in the Message Bible says, “Listening to gossip is like eating cheap candy. Do you really want junk like that in your belly?” 

What if WE are the victims of gossip? Peter says, “Don’t repay evil for evil. Don’t retaliate when people say unkind things about you. Instead, pay them back with a blessing. That is what God wants you to do, and He will bless you for it.” (1 Peter 3:9 NLT) May our heartfelt prayer each day be: “May the words of my mouth and the thoughts of my heart be pleasing to You, O Lord, my Rock and my Redeemer”! (Psalm 19:14 NLT) 

Prayer: Lord, forgive me for the times I’ve spoken unkindly about others. I ask that You change my heart, and deal with me when I sin with my mouth. When the words of others hurt me, help me to respond in a Christ like way. Thank You that as I guard my mouth and my tongue, I will keep myself from trouble! (Proverbs 21:23 AMP) – J. M. Farro

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  3. pastors to the numerous like brian housten, john mcartin who’re more like cult leaders. These tv preachers are instructing a false propersity gospel which appeals to the carnal thoughts dumb sheep. Church buildings like hillsong and encourage church liverpool are dwelling of many christians that a stuffed with the spirit however dont know the word. These are leaders that are following the comments of men

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  5. I prefer to talk about our Lord and Savior, Jesus the Christ. When a brother starts to talk about someone else, I suggest we go and talk to the brother he is talking about and see if we have the story straight.

    I have been disturbed by something a brother said, but when I spoke to them I found out they either misspoke or I miss understood

    Ernie E.
    A servant of Jesus the Christ.

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