Posted by: the warrioress | March 2, 2012

When Christians Differ

Christians are rarely going to agree one hundred percent on everything. We all have our own opinions and slightly different interpretations of what the bible is saying to  God’s people.

There is a chapter within the bible that addresses this and I think it a very wise chapter indeed. It settles the matter of argument between Christians and tell us quite clearly how argument must be handled over the kind of questions of what is sin and what is not, etc.

We need one another in this lost world and a house divided against itself will not stand. It is better for a brother or sister to be closed-mouthed than to fight with one’s Christian brethren and weaken the gospel message that we are all attempting to share. We will not go wrong by keeping our differences to ourselves; there is no need to hammer and pound upon anyone we profess to love.

When I differ with my Christian brethren, I will offer up where I differ and concede that others disagree and will discuss the whys of this and then I will leave it at that. The bible warns me that to do otherwise is not love.

Romans 14
New International Version 1984
The Weak and the Strong

1Accept him whose faith is weak, without passing judgment on disputable matters. 2One man’s faith allows him to eat everything, but another man, whose faith is weak, eats only vegetables. 3The man who eats everything must not look down on him who does not, and the man who does not eat everything must not condemn the man who does, for God has accepted him. 4Who are you to judge someone else’s servant? To his own master he stands or falls. And he will stand, for the Lord is able to make him stand.

5One man considers one day more sacred than another; another man considers every day alike. Each one should be fully convinced in his own mind. 6He who regards one day as special, does so to the Lord. He who eats meat, eats to the Lord, for he gives thanks to God; and he who abstains, does so to the Lord and gives thanks to God. 7For none of us lives to himself alone and none of us dies to himself alone. 8If we live, we live to the Lord; and if we die, we die to the Lord. So, whether we live or die, we belong to the Lord.

9For this very reason, Christ died and returned to life so that he might be the Lord of both the dead and the living. 10You, then, why do you judge your brother? Or why do you look down on your brother? For we will all stand before God’s judgment seat. 11It is written:

“‘As surely as I live,’ says the Lord,
‘every knee will bow before me;
every tongue will confess to God.’”a
12So then, each of us will give an account of himself to God.

13Therefore let us stop passing judgment on one another. Instead, make up your mind not to put any stumbling block or obstacle in your brother’s way. 14As one who is in the Lord Jesus, I am fully convinced that no foodb is unclean in itself. But if anyone regards something as unclean, then for him it is unclean. 15If your brother is distressed because of what you eat, you are no longer acting in love. Do not by your eating destroy your brother for whom Christ died. 16Do not allow what you consider good to be spoken of as evil. 17For the kingdom of God is not a matter of eating and drinking, but of righteousness, peace and joy in the Holy Spirit, 18because anyone who serves Christ in this way is pleasing to God and approved by men.

19Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification. 20Do not destroy the work of God for the sake of food. All food is clean, but it is wrong for a man to eat anything that causes someone else to stumble. 21It is better not to eat meat or drink wine or to do anything else that will cause your brother to fall.

22So whatever you believe about these things keep between yourself and God. Blessed is the man who does not condemn himself by what he approves. 23But the man who has doubts is condemned if he eats, because his eating is not from faith; and everything that does not come from faith is sin.


  1. have you ever played devils advocate with yourself and argued for the other person conclusion?

    it makes for interesting internal monologues.

  2. Wow..did you ever say a mouthful there. And your post “Funny” does the same thing. Really great thoughts. Thank you!

  3. thank you very much. But do you understand what i mean? –

    if we stood up for relationship over being right at all points. It frees the holy spirit to flow through our soft hearts.

  4. Good post, Adrienne. I thought of this passage also:

    “Don’t have anything to do with foolish and stupid arguments, because you know they produce quarrels. And the Lord’s servant must not quarrel; instead, he must be kind to everyone, able to teach, not resentful.” 2 Timothy 2:23-24

    We want to not only argue but also make sure we are allowing God to purify our hearts of any hurts, so that we do not become resentful. Another reason to constantly stay at the feet of our Lord Jesus in confession, allowing Him to wash us and fill us with His love. Thanks! God bless you, friend!

  5. oops. typo…we want to NOT argue 🙂

  6. I’ll give this some more thought, Don’t. I understand what you mean but as far as actually applying it to my life, it’s going to be a definite challenge. Spiritually, I think it would be an excellent exercise for me in furthering humility; I appreciate this challenge and thank you for it.

  7. Thanks for the guidance, Natalie. You know I admire and appreciate everything you have to offer me. God bless you too, Nat.

  8. Interesting point; when Jesus ministered among the religious leaders of the Jews he purposely said things and did things He knew would start arguments; but He did this to point out to them their own hypocritical attitudes and ways of doing business. Paul never hesitated to correct and rebuke false teaching and false teachers. There are times to let it slide but then their are times to take a stand on what is Scriptural and what is not.

  9. this is so true and do not forget that there are people wh will disagree on purpose in order to start strife and that is not what God wants for his children

  10. Agreed…

    I tend to state my case and will even state it again a time or two, depending on its import. If things get heated though, I’ve realized that there’s a point to back off and simply agree to disagree or just let it lie. I think the quiet time after the storm allows for the most growth. When people are too defensive and arguing angrily or with vitriol, they aren’t really listening or considering another’s pov anyway.

  11. Yes, I know these kinds of people well. They are called “internet trolls.” I never got anywhere with those types but it took a while to recognize them and their patterns and enjoyment of the strife.

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