Posted by: the warrioress | April 17, 2012

Hurt

Get Hurt

Get Hurt (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

One of the hardest things to do in the world is admit when I’ve been hurt and hurt bad, emotionally. It is very humbling to admit to being hurt, especially by one’s enemies, or whatever we call those who don’t like us very much. It’s especially hurtful when those whom we love hurt or disappoint us.

It’s very freeing, however, to be really honest and just admit when we are hurt;  I think we can actually heal then. Trying to put on a brave front and pretend that we don’t have any feelings, when our feelings have really been badly hurt, only causes an inward rage and makes the hurt inside fester and grow; it really can grow to a boiling point. This is dangerous because when that happens, we have people going off the deep end and shooting up schools etc.

Hurts

Hurts (Photo credit: darkmavis)

There is something infinitely rewarding that allows healing and acceptance when we just come clean and tell the world that people were successful in hurting us, which is exactly what their intent was. They don’t have to change when we take this action. We can simply look at them and their meanness and feel honest-to-goodness love for them and pity. We can see their flaws, weakness of character, and all the ways in which they need to change. We can sympathize. We can forgive at that point.

All that counts in this world is that we change, that we don’t allow our hurt to turn into rage and bitterness, and that we sincerely forgive those who hurt us.

I’m working on all of this. It’s an on going spiritual process and a tough lesson to learn. It requires insight and a willingness to be vulnerable and experience humility. I’ve never cared much for humility. Jesus Christ and God seem to like to teach me about it a lot though. Go figure…heh heh.  

🙂

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Responses

  1. Perhaps the greatest impediment to forgiveness is the idea that we could actually do it on our own, that it is a human quality. Consider that we are as capable, and likely, to super naturally heal someone in our own strength… as to be able to forgive them. For which is easier?
    Mat 9:5-6 (NIV) Which is easier: to say, ‘Your sins are forgiven,’ or to say, ‘Get up and walk’? But so that you may know that the Son of Man has authority on earth to forgive sins…” Then he said to the paralytic, “Get up, take your mat and go home.”

    The old saying – “To err is human, to forgive is divine” says it all. You are right, it does hurt to admit to someone you were hurt, especially when that was their aim. I admire you for doing it.

    Have a blessed evening!

    Walk daily with God at your side.

    Ed

  2. Bless you for sharing this with us. You speak the truth. It is the best thing you can do for yourself. The Lord will bless and heal you. Thanks for sharing this!

  3. everything you said is so true

  4. As long as we life in this fleshy body “people” will always hurt, disappoint and let us down. I give you kudos for admitting it here on such a large forum. Two of my four grown daughters had this happen to them before noon today. The oldest 42 knows and walks closely with our Lord Jesus, while her younger sister 27 is a prodigal. However, I told them both the same thing. I reminded them of the nature of flesh is to be selfish and hurtful (sometimes unawares I admit), but with hurting through our Lord we are able to receive healing. Our Father in heaven and Lord Jesus will NEVER hurt, disappoint nor let us down. But when others do, our Savior is ready to pick up pieces, mend them together and put us back together
    for His glory and “our growth in Him”.
    Now I’m not saying being hurt by someone emotionally doesn’t cause pain–because it does, I know myself. But I remind myself of what Jesus told us in Matthew 5:44 “But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;”

    I am praying for you, that the Lord will heal hurt, give you a heart to forgive and use this to bring glory to Himself.
    In much Christian love,
    ~streim~

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  6. I know how you feel, there is comfort in the Lord. Confessing and forgiving those that hurt us is the best healing.

    A Woman After God’s Own Heart ♥

  7. You just tell me who hurt you and I’ll take care of them.
    Just kidding.
    Hope your ok.
    Love ya sis,
    Oz

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  9. Thank you, Ed, and God bless you, brother.

  10. Hi Martha! Thanks so much for visiting here.

  11. Thanks, Terry!

  12. Alwayzhis, Streim, what a beautiful comment. Thank you so much, and God bless you always..

  13. Thanks, Author! I agree completely.

  14. Thank you, Oz, bro. God bless you. I’m doing okay, thanks.


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