I’ve spent what feels like many days engaging in some lengthy debate and argument, though I don’t think I’ve argued with every person that disputed my beliefs; still it is clear that there is a point at which debate and argument become unproductive; they can actually encourage angst, rage, anger, frustration, and eventual dislike as well as unkindness in response.
I find it very easy to debate and argue and could do so endlessly in a foolish attempt to prove I am correct and thus “the winner.” I could allow my ego its way and go directly against the bible and the passages below.
Grandstanding in this way is prideful though, and it is not biblical. If I have learned nothing else, over time I have discovered that there are many reasons why this kind of debate and strife are pointless and an absolute waste of time.
In the past, I spent hours and hours and many days attempting to get through to those who deny what I believe, who enjoy the bickering and the oneupmanship of the whole thing. Do I ever wish now that I could get those days and hours back. At the time though, I thought I was doing the right thing; I actually believed this behavior was beneficial and appropriate in God’s eyes, for the Christian cause; I know better now.
But in your hearts set apart Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect — 1Peter 3:15
Avoid godless chatter, because those who indulge in it will become more and more ungodly. — 2 Timothy 2:16
Don’t have anything to do with foolish and stupid arguments, because you know they produce quarrels. And the Lord’s servant must not quarrel; instead, he must be kind to everyone, able to teach, not resentful. Those who oppose him he must gently instruct, in the hope that God will grant them repentance leading them to a knowledge of the truth — 2 Timothy 2:23 -25
But keep away from foolish disagreements. Don’t argue about family histories. Don’t make trouble. Don’t fight about what the law teaches. Don’t argue about things like that. It doesn’t do any good. It doesn’t help anyone. — Titus 3:9
When I say to a wicked person, ‘You will surely die, ’ and you do not warn them or speak out to dissuade them from their evil ways in order to save their life, that wicked person will die for their sin, and I will hold you accountable for their blood. But if you do warn the wicked person and they do not turn from their wickedness or from their evil ways, they will die for their sin; but you will have saved yourself. — Ezekiel 3:18-19
- This Should Keep Us All Thinking turned to This Keep Us All Arguing (xirlleelang.wordpress.com)
- Halil: Some debates/arguments can’t be won, especially if the other person has already made up their mind before you’ve even uttered a single word. (friendfeed.com)
- Stephen Law: are unbelievers without excuse? (pw201.livejournal.com)
- Winning the argument (hannaheroberts111.wordpress.com)
- Kissing a Clenched Fist (kaarre.wordpress.com)