God knew what He was doing when desiring that we marry, rather than burn with lust or acting out in a promiscuous fashion, without commitment. Becoming sexually active without commitment creates a situation that repeats itself over and over again, whereby sexual intimacy becomes casual and nothing special.
God did not intend sexual intimacy to be shared casually. Our self esteem is destroyed when this happens, we are devalued — it is devalued. God describes the perfection of true love and sexual intimacy within the book known as the Song of Solomon. We cheat God’s purposes for this special act when we go our own way and engage in frivolous, meaningless intimacy.
Not only do we lose respect for ourselves, but others lose respect for us when we casually share something that was meant for joining a couple for life, in the eyes of God and man. If I have learned nothing else in my years on this earth, I have learned this.
If someone really loves God and another, they will respect God’s take on this, because God is correct. God knew, (better than we), what happens when we take Him out of the equation and go our own foolish way. We pervert His purposes and intent, and degrade what should be a permanent, beautiful, wonderful bonding experience.
Children, especially, deserve a stable, permanent relationship to be brought up in. They deserve what God desires when we claim to love another. If someone is good enough to have sexual intimacy with, they are good enough to marry. Skirting God’s laws and suggestions will bring problems upon us, but sometimes we must learn the hard way. We are a stubborn people, we human beings. It takes a very long time to learn to follow God’s ways instead of our own.
We set and model an example for our children, young men and young women to be. If we are casual about intimacy, they will be as well. If we model appropriate sexuality, they will do the same. How many sexual partners do we want to wade through before we find one godly individual to share our lives with? Thirty? Seventy-three? At what point have we degraded the entire point and purpose of our God-given sexuality? And at what point do our repeated claims of being in alleged “love” mean very little?
It bears thinking on that when we’ve encountered innumerable bed partners, we have perhaps lost something important and special along the way of sharing ourselves with others. God had a reason to save our bodies for marriage. We were not created to turn something deep, emotional, and special into something casual and trite.
Our human sexuality was created especially for the marriage bed. When we remove it from that context, we manipulate and pervert God’s intent for something safe, beautiful, and wondrous, and turn it into something unsafe, insecure, impermanent, and basically cheapen it.
For specific bible verses about fornication and more in depth reading on this topic, please read through the following article HERE; it is very well done. (http://www.bible-knowledge.com/the-sin-of-fornication/)