Luke 6:27-36 “But I say to you who hear, love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you. Whoever hits you on the cheek, offer him the other also; and whoever takes away your coat, do not withhold your shirt from him either. Give to everyone who asks of you, and whoever takes away what is yours, do not demand it back. And just as you want people to treat you, treat them in the same way. And if you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? For even sinners love those who love them. And if you do good to those who do good to you, what credit is that to you? For even sinners do the same. And if you lend to those from whom you expect to receive, what credit is that to you? Even sinners lend to sinners, in order to receive back the same amount. But love your enemies, and do good, and lend, expecting nothing in return; and your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High; for He Himself is kind to ungrateful and evil men. Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful.” (NAS)
“It is easy to love those who always treat us nicely. Even the heathen do that. The distinctive difference between the true disciples of Jesus and those who simply play church is obvious because of their attitude of loving those who refuse to love them in return. Most Christians are so immature in this area. They are thin-skinned, and nurture self-pity if their feelings have been hurt. They love to harbor a grudge by nursing their wounds as though it was a God-given right.”
“So what happens when a brother or sister in Jesus says something mean, or hurtful to you? Certainly it will produce hurt, or even anger. Hurt and anger are not, by themselves, wrong.”
“God’s word tells us to be angry. Even Jesus got angry when he saw the temple moneychangers. Anger is a secondary emotion; it is a response to hurt or some other root cause.”
“When someone hurts our feelings, it makes us feel belittled or disrespected, and this produces anger. God allows us to be angry, but He does NOT allow us to sin by hating the person who wronged us.”
Ephesians 4:26-27 “When angry, do not sin; do not ever let your wrath (your exasperation, your fury or indignation) last until the sun goes down. Leave no such room or foothold for the devil give no opportunity to him.” AMP
“If you harbor hatred towards a brother because he has hurt you, and made you angry, then you are sinning. The hurt and anger are normal human emotions; the hatred is allowing Satan to get a ‘foothold’ in your life. The Greek word for ‘foothold’ is defined as follows by Strong’s Dictionary:
“Foothold” = 5117 topos (top’-os); a spot (general in space, but limited by occupancy), i.e. location (as a position, home, tract, etc.)”
“If we allow unresolved hurt and anger to continue, the scripture says that the devil will find a “spot” to occupy in our lives, and in our homes. This is not a good thing. Marriages are destroyed simply because anger is not resolved before a couple goes to bed. Instead, they allow the hurt and anger to fester all night long, and in the morning there is a cold distance between them. Husbands have the greater responsibility here. They must be the one’s to nurture their precious wives back to emotional health, loving them as Christ loves the church.”
I John 2:9-11 The one who says he is in the light and yet hates his brother is in the darkness until now. The one who loves his brother abides in the light and there is no cause for stumbling in him. But the one who hates his brother is in the darkness and walks in the darkness, and does not know where he is going because the darkness has blinded his eyes. (NAS)
I John 3:14-19 We know that we have passed out of death into life, because we love the brethren. He who does not love abides in death. Everyone who hates his brother is a murderer; and you know that no murderer has eternal life abiding in him. We know love by this that He laid down His life for us; and we ought to lay down our lives for the brethren. But whoever has the world’s goods, and beholds his brother in need and closes his heart against him, how does the love of God abide in him? Little children, let us not love with word or with tongue, but in deed and truth. We shall know by this that we are of the truth, and shall assure our heart before Him. (NAS)
“It is difficult to imagine we are guilty of murder when we hate our brother, but God takes hatred very seriously. Not only is the attitude of a murderer prevalent in someone who hates a fellow believer, but also it causes him or her to walk in darkness. They are like the blind; they can walk, but they can’t see the deception that has enveloped their life.
Unless we do everything possible to eradicate hatred from our hearts and lives, we will not have eternal life…we will lose our salvation! That is why the scripture says, “Everyone who hates his brother is a murderer; and you know that no murderer has eternal life abiding in him.” This is very serious business, and must not be taken lightly. A Christian who fancies him or herself as being spiritual, affirming their love and devotion to God without loving their brother is a liar.”
I John 4:19-21 “We love, because He first loved us. If someone says, “I love God,” and hates his brother, he is a liar; for the one who does not love his brother whom he has seen, cannot love God whom he has not seen. And this commandment we have from Him, that the one who loves God should love his brother also.” (NAS)
“To summarize, a true believer cannot hate his brother, or even his enemies. Those who harbor hatred in their heart are malicious deceivers. Those who spread gossip and slander are, in effect, concealing their own hatred through lying lips.”
Proverbs 26:22-28 “The words of a whisperer are like dainty morsels, and they go down into the innermost parts of the body. Like an earthen vessel overlaid with silver dross are burning lips and a wicked heart. He who hates disguises it with his lips, but he lays up deceit in his heart. When he speaks graciously, do not believe him, for there are seven abominations in his heart. Though his hatred covers itself with guile, His wickedness will be revealed before the assembly. He who digs a pit will fall into it, and he who rolls a stone, it will come back on him. A lying tongue hates those it crushes, and a flattering mouth works ruin.” (NAS)
Proverbs 10:18-19 “He who conceals hatred has lying lips, and he who spreads slander is a fool. When there are many words, transgression is unavoidable, but he who restrains his lips is wise.” (NAS)
There is a cure for hatred…love and forgiveness. These terms are not just convenient Christian rhetoric, but the very essence of what our life should reflect.
Proverbs 10:11-12 “The mouth of the righteous is a fountain of life, but the mouth of the wicked conceals violence. Hatred stirs up strife, but love covers all transgressions.” (NAS)
“In short, a Christian is NOT allowed to hate other human beings. In fact, God requires them to love others, even their enemies, and those who mistreat them. Jesus is the ultimate model to follow, and in his last moments, as he hung beaten and tortured, he forgave those who were responsible.”
Luke 23:33-34 And when they came to the place called The Skull, there they crucified Him and the criminals, one on the right and the other on the left. But Jesus was saying, “Father, forgive them; for they do not know what they are doing.” NAS
[This entire “sermon” of part 1 & part 2 were taken from the following address below]
It is an excellent article on hating others and demonstrating that hate through a variety of ways. I think all Christians should read it and meditate on the thoughts contained within.